Almighty confers the children into the parent’s hands like a clean slate. And, it is the overall conduct of the parents, their behaviour, their ideals – all these creates conducive surrounding for the child to learn and pick up. Normally children adopt and adapt to all good habits and culture after a prolonged observation of their parents. And, thus it is aptly said – parents must keep in mind that children learn more by not hearing but by observing.
In order to encourage development of a gifted personality of their wards, parents must pay close attention to the following things when it comes to their own social attitude, attire, attitude, manners, courtesy and politeness.
Always address children with utmost regard and maintain their respect and dignity. Teach them the importance of three words; ‘Please’, ‘Excuse me’, and ‘Thank you’ from the early days of their childhood. While infusing these, parents must teach two words; ‘Sorry’ and ‘I will not repeat’ to their wards and best way to do it is they themselves put into practice of using these words constantly.
Learn to take wards’ help in daily household chores and never miss an opportunity to appreciate them whenever they take part in it. By doing this you will encourage a sense of responsibility in them and thus making children to realise its importance and feeling of being helpful to others will make their personality more beautiful.
Treat their friends in a good way. Teach them how to deal with their friends. Try to inculcate a sense of sharing in children; where they are fine with sharing their toys and other stuff with friends. Don’t make children possessive.
It’s always advisable to address children using their names. Have conversation with them in a clear language. Also develop a habit among them so they place things at proper place in the house and first implement things at your end that you expect to see in them and practiced by them.
Remain alert to inculcate good habits among them; like washing of hands before taking meal, following table manners while eating, eating habits, diet and doing physical exercise regularly.
In order to develop politeness in children; customs, consideration and commonsense plays a very crucial role in their upbringing. If you find any faults in their behavior, it becomes imperative to focus on three things; appreciate their little achievements, create a proper place to showcase their trophies, certificates and prizes they have won, and express word of commendation for their abilities. To change their habits deal with them utmost patience.
Allow him to take his own decision. Seek their opinion while choosing clothes or any other things of their liking, and always offer them options instead of directing them to do what you had in mind. Leave that place immediately for some time and ignore it if you find kid’s behaviour intolerable.
If you feel that the present surrounding may lead to bad habits in your children then try to leave that place or make an effort to give them best environment. Don’t always give in to children’s demands. Don’t do everything as per their wishes. But stop them at right way whenever they are wrong and prevent them from becoming stubborn. In order to change their behaviour do not encourage a habit among them of receiving a gift or a prize for that, do not make efforts to bring conditional change in them. Make sure you don’t miss a chance to appreciate child’s maiden effort of improving their behaviour once you instructed them to do so. Also keep in mind that fighting or punishing children never helps in bringing change in their behaviour.
To become parents is an incident but to live up that parenthood forever is nothing short of disciplined and dedicated actions to accomplishing that. Raising children is not duty but a festival to be celebrated life-long. Childhood is a golden period of life. Do not let it become burden. Children do not improve by just giving them facilities, physical comforts and conveniences. Remember this – putting children into hostels, making them leave home or keeping at somebody else’s place is a solution of your issues and not kids’.
Try to use this positively that children could learn good or bad things by considering a role model either from TV characters, from stories or even somebody ideal in the family.
– Jaydev Sonagara (Excerpt from his book “Parvarish – Making Children Successful”)
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